The Light Within

I breathe in the crisp fall air as the last of the sun’s light fades into the deep darkness of night. The cool air dances across my skin, sinking deep down until I feel a chill throughout. It is both unpleasant yet revitalizing. The intensity of cold hits my system and reminds me of life the within my body. The life within my flesh is magnified by the icy discomfort. I breathe in deeply and close my eyes to soak in the moment. Feeling my breath hit deep within me, to the place where it touches the soul. The connection makes my heart skips a beat. A smile dances across my face as I gaze up at the dark sky and look upon the stars shining brightly. Oh, how the sky feels more like home than any other place I’ve been. My spirit stirs within me, yearning for places I have not known.

The stars beckon to my soul. As though they are old friends reaching out. Whispering secrets from eons past. I long to roam freely through the cosmos. An ever shining light that travels years through the expanse of darkness searching for someone to recognize the magnificence of my soul’s inner radiance. Looking for those lost in the endless night, to guide them along until they find their own inner radiance. For only a few know what it’s like to shine brightly through the great dark ether, hoping for one day someone will see your light. Years of travel through the dark abyss to find the one who’s heart will sing at the sight of your soul’s shining.

Yet still my body feels at home among the trees, as they know how to reach for the heavens while remaining firmly grounded. They breathe in that which suffocates and turn it into life sustaining air. My heart’s greatest desire is to be like them. To transform that which poisons the world surrounding me, all the pain, all the loneliness, and show others how love can transform it into gratitude and wisdom. To show how we’re all connected and one with the flow of life.

For there is a river within each of us. Ever flowing, never knowing for sure if it’s path will bring it back to reunite with the Source. An ocean of oneness in a world full of drought. The river knows that with such shear power it doesn’t matter what obstacles lie within its path. For partnered with the currents of time, the river has nothing that can withstand it. Water flowing only needs time to transforms what is in its path. For even one day the rock will be shaped by its current.

If only these words may flow and reach out to touch another’s soul. To find those who feel lost; those searching and yearning for that which cannot quite be explained. To comfort the lonely. Those who feel beaten by the waves of crashing down on them. Lost in a crowd who is blind to the greatness that lies within. Do not fret. Do not faulter on your journey. Your contribution to the world is far greater than you can imagine. It is only once you see it that you will truly be free. Remember it is human nature to overlook the beauty of the world. Do not doubt the power you retain, due to the few who are too blind to see the magnificence of the universe that resides within you.

Mindful Connection

As I previously discussed, I’d like to further touch on how our disconnected perspective with mental health is because we connect the mind and the soul as though they are one and the same. That perhaps we need to reframe our perception of the mind.

What if we could look at it as a dashboard or interface to connect the soul to the physical existence? A way for our soul to experience, and be touched by, this thing we call life. But not necessarily something that defines the spirit. Especially with how it seems the line is blurred between soul and physicality. It would be easy to see the how we could lose sight of how truly magnificent the spirit is. Yet we’re so ignorant about what the soul even is; leaving a definition complex. So, with a lack of a universal definition and explanation, truly it is up to what you feel is your truth. Just maybe don’t be so hard on yourself and others, we’re all still in beta testing.

Though be it through the heights of happiness, the bliss of love, or the depths of sadness. I know my soul is more. It’s at these moments of intensity that I feel my soul’s connection is more easily seen. But I also know it’s still there during the monotony of every day routine. Yet I don’t feel that these aspects of the physical experience, define my soul. Though other souls leave an imprint, I feel that Spirit is an everlasting strength, a certainty, I can tap into whenever I choose. Or more like whenever I remember how to, as disconnection feels like an epidemic.

I know it’s not a new realization, but even though we’re more easily connected than ever, the vast majority of people feel lonely. It’s an ironic fact that we’re all lonely together… In s highly accessible world. Is this due to the way technology takes away those highs and lows? Or puts controls on it so we may choose to not experience the intensity at times? Those moments that make the connection more visible, it allows us a filter. Or at least places them in solitude within a device, rather than in unpredictable personal interactions. I feel that it’s more fear of unpleasant interactions or judgement, with technology being a good assistance in avoidance. A lot of negative stuff in our existence goes back to roots in some sort of fear.

Now with that all being said, there’s still times technology may precipitate these deeply connecting experiences, but I see how it can dull the more common interactions. We’re more in control, but perhaps that control comes at a cost? I think it boils down to what all of humanity must advance in, which is mindfulness and moderation.

I greatly value connections I’ve made with people that I might never have had the opportunity to, had it not been for the internet. But I also notice the colder interactions with people closer to me. Such as feeling forced to stay on a platform I dislike to just have any sort of connection or interaction with some friends and family. Rather than phone calls or scheduling chats over coffee. We update our status and put up pictures online to keep others informed. Yes, there may be more information in quantity, but what about quality? Or connection? Remember, it’s more fulfilling to see your beautiful face in person than the perfected photo on your account. Even if there’s a new one every day.

Perhaps in the world of filters and followers, that disconnection with self becomes greater. Due to the pressure of needing an instagood worthy experience every day. When most of us realize how generally the same our daily lives are. But it’s ok to not be picture perfect. Connecting to the real person is far more satisfying than a perfectly filtered image.

In the end it’s ok to dive into the digital world and play a part. But don’t forget to tap out routinely, to take time to tap into connection with your soul, as well as others. It can be a powerful tool for good after all.

As humans it seems we have many things to learn about what mindfulness really is and how it plays a role not only in our physical health but also our spiritually health and connectivity. One of the many good things about the internet is that are more capable of being able to remind each other to take time out to reach out, or reach within. Just think of it as being similar to how your device’s operating system needs updates routinely, so does your spirit. We just get the cool opportunity to connect in many ways, be it spiritually upgrading to connect with others. It during times alone sketching/whatever helps you reach a meditative space. Just take that time to tap in and level up! ūüėČ

The Root of Negative Mental Health Perceptions

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It is simply a part of being human. With the amazing gift of the human mind, comes the ups and downs of mental health. When dealing with general health it is widely accepted that we all deal with times of balance, often considered good health or wellness. As well as times of imbalance, being bad health, disease, or illness. Just as our bodies change, so do our minds. Perhaps, even more so, as we are still very naive as to inner workings of the brain, mind, and soul. With vastly varying beliefs, I doubt we’ll ever be able to come to an agreement on how the brain and mind are connected to the concept of soul. However, it boils down to the fact that¬†everyone has challenging life events, overwhelming stress, or an illness that disrupts their inner balance. Just like a virus can disrupt the balance of your body. Or malignancy can disrupt the balance of your cells. For some it’s more impactful or intense than for others. Yet we do not judge someone if they struggle harder with cancer than someone else with the same form. But looking at mental illness there is such harsh judgement. People are looked at as “crazy” like it is somehow within their control, or they are just lacking the will and strength to overcome the challenge. Thankfully, we don’t do this to someone who is sick. Imagine have the flu and someone judging you for it.

For many, mental illness is more impactful than they will ever admit, because horrible stigmas cling to mental health and those who seek care during challenging times. For all of us, I’ll bet we all have gone through moments of mental illness or dis-ease. And how many suffered alone unnecessarily because of the connotations associated with mental health? Judgement follows watchful and weary of anyone admitting to mental illness. Preventing many from seeking help, or even truly realizing the need to seek the care they need. Which is horrible because for we all know that catching an illness or issue early can prevent it from lasting longer or getting worse. How many would have been able to return to balance with simple treatments, yet left neglected it spiraled into something much worse? But why is this? What has created such a stigma around mental health? In my humble opinion, it is fear.

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Mental health is the only aspect of health that is fused with the aspect of the core self, be it personality or just purely the soul. The ever powerful “I am”. While many physical illnesses or injuries can shake us to our core, there’s this resounding faith in inner strength that it “will pull you through it.” That you can fall back on your sense of self during illness or injury. Yet with mental health we have to take this cold hard look at how easily our idea of identity can be changed. It is a sobering thought to think that the aspects of “I am” can be shaken with simple changes in the chemistry of your brain. That the imbalance can cause someone who was happy to be miserable. Not caring for the people or things that once greatly defined them. It makes you question if your soul is merely a chemical interactions, but really this is letting fear run wild.

When we look at someone with mental illness it scares us. For who wants to really look inside and think that the normal inner dialogue inside your head, can suddenly switch to a deafening roar or dark twisted voices. That these changes can cause the person to seem a stranger to those to know them best. Acknowledge that it can change habits, inhibitions, and fortitude. While most will never experience the dramatic shifts in mental wellness, the fact that it is still largely unknown and even worse, misunderstood. Leaves it this looming pit of terrifying possibilities. Just like our ancestors gave into paranoia of demons and witches causing events they simply didn’t understand. So too are we basically giving into superstitions that mental illness is different from any other form of illness. It is much easier to look at someone with mental illness and place the blame on them, that they have somehow failed, are broken, or weak. Rather than looking at someone who is going through this horrible health challenge and showing them empathy. Because empathy¬†requires¬†you to take on that moment of “what if it was me”. It’s an aspect of our mortality that we have a hard time accepting, because we often tie our personality to our soul. Which I think does very little justice to how amaranthine the soul truly is. The soul doesn’t shatter over the experiences of a lifetime.

Mental illness doesn’t mean that the soul is weak, it’s just going through an experience. I feel that often we look at identity and sense of self in this concrete and stagnant way. Yet throughout our lives our identity has to change. It is just hardest when we have no feeling of control. But we only truly lose control when we allow fear to dictate our action, or in some cases inaction. If we could only take a breath and realize that mental health, as well as our concept of identity, works on a spectrum. As one of my favorite writers says:

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Just as we cannot step into the same river twice, never can we step into ourselves the same as another time in our life. Who would want to? Stagnant water isn’t inviting. In fact humanity chases the white water rapids. And sits in awe of the waterfall. The ever-changing, and sometimes chaotic, beauty that sits within nature dwells too within the human experience. Though some would say “Oh, what then should we seek mental illness?”, and the answer is, of course not. We are already learning to be weary of intentionally messing with the balance of nature, for it can cause far greater ramifications. But we don’t judge nature for the bends in a river. If only we could sit with this acceptance for each other, to practice setting aside our judgments and fears; the journey would be far easier to navigate. Yet, we tend to put so much pressure on ourselves to be in control at all times. With the main goal of simply feeling secure enough so that we may go out and test our limits in daring ways. The suffering we self-impose, and then project onto each other, is exhausting. Imagine what we’d be capable of if we tried to practice letting go of fear and judgement. To set aside shame and instead uphold the journey to seek wellness in all aspects of who and what we are. It won’t be easy, nor will it happen over night. But it begins with just trying.

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If you are either in a rough patch, or have been facing the challenges of long therm mental illness. Know that you are not a broken person. You are not unworthy. You are not weak. You are not a failure. You are just human… And you deserve (w)holistic wellness.

Know that for at least this one human, I do not judge you. I meet you where you are, with an open heart and an empathetic soul. I cheer for your accomplishments, and am open to listen to your heartaches. For we all have our challenges, and I go through this journey ever in awe at the diverse and complex beauty of the human spirit. It is #mentalhealthawarerness month. If you feel inclined to share, I’d love to know what experiences you’ve had or are going through!

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10 Tips for Empaths

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The Empathic Journey

Years ago I probably would’ve thought you were crazy if you asked me “Are you an Empath?”. I didn’t even really understand what it was until a few years back, and even then it was only talked about on the super hippy-tastic circles. Mostly, because was so misunderstood. Which is how I felt at the time too.

For those who don’t know, an Empath is someone who has a higher-than-average ability to pick up on other people’s feelings. It is more than just empathy, where you can try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. No, an Empath can feel another person’s joy or pain. They can tell someone is upset before they’ve even spoken. With people they’re really close to, they may be able to “just tell” something is off and call to check-in with that loved one. Empaths often don’t like large crowds, because they pick up so many different emotions. They can have anxiety and feel drained often. There’s a great article that talks about how to recognize if you are an Empath, by Judy Orloff, M.D., which you can find here. What I wanted to discuss today was more aimed for those who are already aware that they are empathic.

I feel as though we’re living in a great time for Empaths, even though there are many challenges we face. I feel like it is so awesome to see it more and more accepted. As a teenager I could have greatly benefited from better understanding my Empathic capabilities. I have vivid memories of games I made up as a child, where I’d try to guess what other people were feeling. Like if I saw a car coming in the other direction, I’d close my eyes and try to “guess” what their mood was. Then look at their expressions as they drove past. But I also struggled with feeling responsible for the negative emotions of others. Like I had to fix it, and I didn’t always know how.¬† And I didn’t understand why I was sad, just because someone I was around was sad. As I got older, I learned how to use this talent to explain people’s emotions back to them in a way that brought comfort or clarity. I think that is why my social circle jokingly referred to me as the group’s therapist. But there wasn’t much support for me back then. I often felt overwhelmed and confused as to why. I don’t look back longing for a different outcome, I am happy with who I am and those experiences shaped me. But I’d love it if I could help anyone else ease the struggle.

If I had known what an Empath was and told people this, I think a few people would’ve thought I lost my mind, and I might have had a few try to give me an exorcism. But truly, I do not see it as a paranormal gift. I feel that it is a personality trait, one that is evolving within humanity. It seems to me that there are far more Empath’s now, so it only makes sense that we will talk about it more. And hence, it will continue to become more accepted. I personally feel it is just a development of our senses. With most talents there are those who have a better innate talent for it. For these Empaths, they easily have an understanding of micro-expressions and body language. I think as time goes on, we’ll only better understand what it means to be an Empath and why it occurs in some with great intensity. For all of us who identify with it, I hope we can learn to understand it in a way that allows us to see it as a gift.

As an Empath, you’ll likely have heard “overly-sensitive” a lot. You’ll learn to cover up your discomfort in many different situations, just to avoid the judgement. This is draining and frustrating. But I’ve learned a few tools that help me navigate a world of emotions, and be able to tell which ones are mine.

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1. Bubble!
Have you ever play Super Mario Bros.? There’s a way that if you can’t keep up with a friend while playing together, you can hit a button and a little bubble appears around you for protection/help. I want you to think of this in times of high emotions. If things are really intense around you, giggle about being in a video game and imagine pressing an internal button, that initiates your own bubble. You will need to practice this for it to be really effective. So, before you go to bed each night, take some deep breaths. Imagine a warm light, of any color that comforts you, fill your heart. Let it build and build until you can feel it envelop you in a peaceful warmth. If you fall asleep, it’s perfectly okay! Your intention is there. But it is best to try to stay awake so you can really connect to your breath.

Breathing will become your a superpower. I refer to this deep connective breathing as breathing in until you feel it touch your soul. There’s this special feeling you get right in your chest, when you breathe in deep enough. This is where you are being fully present, fully connected, and fully in power. Breathe it in and hold it once it touches your soul. That is the button to turn on your bubble. The great thing is, once you practice, no one will ever know you are using your bubble. It will just look like you are breathing.

2. Music
We get easily drained as Empaths, and it takes time to learn how to not be “open” to everyone’s emotions. So, it is necessary to find things that refill your energy. This is one you are going to have to play around with, because preferences are subjective. But I find music to be one of the most helpful tools for me as an Empath. You start by watching which songs make you happy, not because of old memories. But purely because the beat makes you smile. Put these songs on your phone, so they are always with you. Seriously, it is okay to put in your earbuds and lock yourself in the bathroom for a 30 second dance party! Or to take a break and park somewhere in your car to belt out with your favorite song. Try it next time you feel as though everyone has drained the life-force from you.

3. Move it! 
Yes, just like I said to go lock yourself somewhere you can do a quick dance party. The same goes for any movement. Getting your circulation going isn’t only good for your physical health, it is good for your emotional health. I am not going to tell you to go run, because you may hate running. I just want you to find something that makes you want to move. Do you love the swing-set? Go swing! Love to jump? There are trampoline parks in most cities. Or at least you can get a little jump on at home. Try out different classes in your area, even things that sound weird. You may find something unique that you really love.

4. Essential Oils
There are so many oils out there that are helpful, but I can’t possibly include them all in this post. I highly recommend that you try new ones, whenever you have the option! Some of the basic oils I would recommend are:
– Lavender, or Ylang-ylang, for anxiety: Personally, I prefer Ylang-ylang as it is a lighter and more floral smell. It reminds me of sunshine. And I reach for it when I know I am going into a situations with high emotions. Just one or two drops on the chest, by your heart. But lavender is a great starter oil. It has many uses, is easily obtained, and often very affordable. It can also help relieve stress and anxiety.
– Eucalyptus, for rejuvenation: This oil is a great way to recharge when you are feeling drained. The same goes for any of the mints.
– Sandalwood, or Frankincense, for protection: My favorite oil is Frankincense. I love its rich earthy scent and it is so diverse in its uses. Be it to protect you from negative energies, or to fight off that cold. It is very helpful. In fact, in studies it has been seen to have antidepressant effects¬†and even boosts the immune system! Just be sure to keep your oils somewhere cool, preferably dark, and private. It may sound silly, but emotions are just energy. It’s best to keep your oils somewhere away from other people’s energy.

5. Sacred Space
This is a must have. You have to have a space set aside for yourself. It doesn’t have to be big. I’ve known some people to even use their car! It just has to be a place you can control to some degree. Truly it can be anywhere you can relax. But ideally it is a place you can decorate, purify, and make yours. I recommend routinely saging your space, to cleanse and protect. But you can cleanse with a prayer or intention as well. Oils and crystals may also be used to cleanse your space. Whatever allows you to really claim the space as your own. Use your space to go and relax. To get away from the world. Even if it is just for a few minutes.

5. Creative Expression
Do not give me that “Oh, I can’t draw.” line, it is an old outdated thought that is holding you back. Just like there are a ton of ways to get moving, there are a ton of ways to be creative. Even with drawing/painting there are a ton of different styles, or you can make one up! With humanity we like structure, so that we feel taken care of and safe enough to go outside of those defined boundaries and grow.

So, in order to grow, you gotta start somewhere! Go scribble on some paper. Or shred it into tiny pieces and make a shape out of them. Mix paint together (at Wal-Mart acrylic paint is under a dollar per container or even on sale at times for 50 cents) and drip, splatter, or dump it onto paper. As long as it is yours and you don’t care, you can dump that paint on anything! Go get an art kit for kids, play with air dry clay, or go out to a pottery class. There are options for every budget and lifestyle. You just need to go try it. Poor all those emotions into your art. Let it go through you, into your art. Rather than hold onto it. I think you’ll not only feel better, you’ll be surprised at what you can create!

6. Unplug
There are at least a few times a week we can all turn off our phone, or at least the ringer. And far more times we can all step away from the internet. Personally, I turn my phone on vibrate whenever possible. I also limit the number of apps that have permission to give me notifications. In fact, I’ve never allowed Facebook to have permission to give me notifications and I swear it has a daily temper tantrum. I am available by my phone for emergencies. But seriously, years ago we survived without cellphones. Where you had to play phone tag with someone’s answering machine. We weren’t always available or connected 24/7, and the world didn’t implode. Just making sure your ringtone doesn’t jolt you each time it goes off, can help greatly. Try soothing tones whenever possible.

7. No
This one is tough, but you have to start practicing saying no. I see this with Empath’s a lot, they feel obligated to fix things or maintain the peace. While sacrificing their emotional well-being or happiness. Creating boundaries will help you tremendously, and if they are healthy, it can help strengthen relationships too. This can be as simple as not answering the door when you have no expected guests, no missed calls/texts, and especially if it is a time when you usually aren’t available. Or ignoring a call for a number you don’t know. As well it can be saying no if friends want to go out to a club you hate because it is too loud, or when your family is pressuring you to have dinner with that family member who is always rude. The one everyone knows hates you anyway. I am not saying never be around them, just know once-in-awhile you have a choice. It is okay to say no. Being an adult we have that magic power. We get a choice. Sometimes feeling obligated, we can forget that magic power. There is nothing wrong with saying, “Nah, thanks. I want to just go home and relax.” and leave it at that. Let them complain or tease you. Learn to say no, and feel that you have the right to say it, because you do. There are times you can make compromises, but do not allow it to turn into running your life.

8. Cherish Me Time
For Empaths the best thing you will ever do for yourself, is learning to like hanging-out with yourself. It will not only help you to be a more independent adult, but it will help you get experience with what your emotions feel like. Sometimes when you have so many emotions rolling around inside you, it can feel terrifying to be alone with them. But depending on others to distract you from all of it, can actually be what is adding to it. I know for a good portion of my generation, we weren’t really taught a lot about emotional intelligence.

Think about how you were taught all these subjects in school to “prepare” you for the “real world”. Were there any classes on emotional intelligence? I’ll bet most say no, if you did say yes. Please, send me an email. I want to know what cool school you went to! And I don’t mean that one week your health class teacher talked about stress. Emotions are far more complicated than a one week topic in a class.

So, for most of us it is either expected that parents/guardians would teach us. Or we’d magically acquire the tools for emotional management. But for many they were not given tools, or they were given ones that were dysfunctional due to generations lacking proper emotional intelligence. Today more than ever it is so important to gain emotional intelligence. There are so many streams of information bombarding us with intentions of emotional manipulation. Without proper understanding, it is hard to decipher it all, let alone recognize when it is being used to manipulate us. Plus, with all the digital ways we can “escape” it is easier and easier to become disconnected with yourself. I’ll bet most of us don’t even notice it. The side effects of enjoying time with yourself are increase self-esteem, self-love, and the abandonment of any fear attached to eating or going to the movies ALONE. Hey, being able to choose the movie and snacks is an awesome feeling!

9. Spirituality
Spirituality used to be associated with ghosts and the paranormal, and for some it still is. But I am talking about the connection you have with your soul.¬†Being connected is so essential, for everyone. Perhaps, you already routinely participate in a religion. That’s great! But it doesn’t necessarily mean it is attending to all your spiritual needs. For some religion is their spirituality. They co-exist together. For others, they are deeply religious but they have separate rituals for their spiritual wellness. Still others only focus on their spirituality. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. There can’t be, for it is literally your connection with your soul. No one else can dictate what that is or how it is achieved. Only you. I know that can be scary, but it is also so exciting. There’s so much to be gained. I truly feel if people were more connected, the world would be a far better place.

10. Give Yourself Permission
Whether you need to laugh like a maniac, or cry it all out. It is okay to feel.¬†To let yourself feel the full height and depths of emotions. Especially if you’re carrying more than just your own. It is okay to shed a tear when comforting a distraught friend. It might even be the sign of strength and acceptance they need to let go and release it all. While you don’t want emotions to run your life, it doesn’t mean you’re trying to get rid of them. They’re a part of you. It is just a matter of learning to navigate this journey with them. Also, know that by feeling the deeply, you will be able to help others. As well as to know yourself deeper. And to truly experience the most essential aspect of what it means to be human.

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Realistic Positivity

fabian-moller-401625-unsplash.jpgIf you know me at all, or follow me on Instagram, you will know I am all about those positive vibes. Whether it is Law of Attraction (positivity attracts positivity). Or just down to the science of Psychology and what powerful effects positive thinking can have on your well-being. I am on board! I try to spread it everywhere and use it to get through the challenges of life and especially, the challenges of chronic illness. But I wanted to talk briefly about, realistic positivity. As it seems so often we’re bombarded with messages of “just be positive!” and there’s a point we all reach where that isn’t realistic.

I’ve had chronic pain for a while, but over the last few months it has gotten a lot worse. With horrible flare-ups that just hurt to my core. While I continue to battle for a proper diagnosis, I still am trying to get the pain under control. Due to my holistic wellness training and desire to heal my body rather than band-aid the issues. I have had a lot of issues with finding solutions. Even being adamant about not wanting narcotics, western medicine treats chronic pain with extreme suspicion. Which I understand for the addiction issues, but for a patient who doesn’t want to go down that road at all, it is still an extremely frustrating and often dehumanizing experience.¬†For the past few months I felt like a ping pong ball being batted back and forth between doctors. Yet even clearly stating I do not want narcotics, I was verbally spat on. I kept at it and finally I was referred to a specialist. It would take months to get an appointment, but I was so hopeful this would offer me some solutions for my pain. My primary even ran scans and tests ahead of time so that I would be set for this appointment.

I’ve been driving myself for weeks to just get to that appointment, to use the pain, and have it drive me. Thinking I’d finally have options and potential answers. I got there almost an hour early, only to be rushed through intake. To find out they never even looked at my scans/tests, and had to only see the Physicians Assistant. Who would shush me every time I tried to speak. He was robotic and barely even looked at me. I felt like I wasn’t even aloud to speak, let alone hurt. I don’t feel like I was heard and I wasn’t given any viable options from the visit. It was a waste of time and it left me crushed. Then today I had a flare-up, which hit me hard. And you know what? I let it. I got the kiddo off to school, I looked at my schedule and set aside the none-essential things. Which gave me a couple free hours today. And I let the sadness, frustration, and pain wash over me. I gave myself permission to cry, be upset, feel sorry for myself, wallow. Just gave myself permission to¬†feel.¬†I let all those emotions that I don’t want to dwell on, pass through me. Because if I keep going like they’re not real, I will burn out. They’re a part of life. And I so often see people who believe in the power of positivity, carry this guilt of having a bad day. Yet, we’re only human and no one can realistically be positive 100% of the time. Even if you can, I think it is a disservice to your experience in this existence. Because it is part of life and it is essential to allow all things to balance out in life. But the key is to allow yourself time to let it pass through you, and not dwell inside you. It is just a moment in time and it will pass. It is just energy and it will pass.

I could go into more depth about all the specialists I’ve seen and how they treat me like I’m subhuman. How much having a disability requires me to constantly advocate, not only for myself but others as well. Just never-ending avocation and work to get through all the barriers that happen in just “normal” existence. But that is seriously enough for an epic book. One you gotta let me know would want to read. As I don’t want to just rattle on with stories.

My main point is, if you’re going through some stuff. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to take a break from trying to be “on top of it all”. Learn to tell the difference between allowing negativity to take up residence in your life, and just allowing experiences to flow through you without attachments. Because life is really all about energy. There’s good and bad. While we try to maintain the positive, negative energy has to be around for balance. Most importantly with all this, please, learn if you need to take out time to retreat inward during a bout of treacherous energy. Or if you need to reach out. It can be isolating and I am so grateful for the support system I have. Don’t let it isolate you if you need someone (I’m here if you wanna talk!).

We just need to learn to not attach self-worth to the current flow of energy. So, we’re capable of navigating through it.

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